4 people that you shouldn't dare date in the Office!!

I dedicate this article to those guys who think that the office is the only place on earth where you will find love........ There are four categories of people that you shouldn't even think of;


1. The Intern 
So much can go wrong when dating an intern, assistant or any other underling that such temptations are best left alone. If your colleagues find out about this office romance, there could be cries of favoritism.......pls pls pls overcome this temptation.

2. The IT guy or gal 
Nothing beats having your request for computer assistance rise to the top of the tech support queue. But fall out of favour with your technically inclined lover and you'll have to endure the tech support call of shame any time your computer has the hiccups. 

3. The boss 
Throw unrequited love and/or an ugly break-up into the mix and there's no telling how far your professional reputation could plummet...after all, this is your boss now. or isn't he/she?


4. The serial dater 
Cozy up to the office philanderer(for simplicity... this is that guy/gal who is everybody's everybody) and you make yourself a prime target for professional gossip and hostility. Not only can your reputation plummet overnight, your colleagues may have a hard time taking you seriously. for this one be as distanced as much as possible!!!!!!


 A short one but one to ponder about.


lovely weekend guys..

Jamo

The Signs of A Player!

Wsap ya’ all it’s been quite a while before i did you one. I remember in the last blog i promised to  do a coming soon entitled "the signs of a player." I can see all the ladies smiling at this, but wait a minute please.........Here is a disclaimer; (Not all men lie, not all men cheat, and not all women are sweet innocents themselves. Nothing written or imagined written herein should be taken to construe such an opinion.)

Infidelity is one of the biggest problems in relationships, behind money problems coz being in love makes us so vulnerable &  being cheated on is very painful. It's better to be aware of the signs and be honest with yourself from the beginning rather than let yourself fall into the trap of falling for a guy, and then falling for all his lies.

Players have several characteristics in common. Some will have more, some will have less, but if the man you're dating has several of these in one go, you could well be dating a player.

 1. He expressly denies being one.

If your man comes straight out (unprovoked) and proclaims that he aint a player, he tends to be precisely that. He will announce this the first time he screws up, or senses that you're leery about him. And he's operating on reflex. The fact is he's so used to being accused of being one, that he instinctively plays offense from the start, in the hope you might be gullible enough to believe what you hear, rather than what you see.

2. He's too smooth.

Does he have an answer for everything? A really good answer? I'm not surprised. as this comes from years of practice. He's made all the big mistakes and has plenty of experience with smoothing things over. He knows what you want to hear, because he's learned well from his previous enablers. Don't add yourself to the list.

3. He's always slightly aloof.

He pays just enough attention to make you crave more, but little enough to make you wonder how interested he really is. This ploy is designed to make you want more -- which is what most of you end up doing -- and some of you will go out of your way to get his attention through methods you wouldn't normally lower yourself to. That's exactly what he wants; you crawling on your knees for his attention.

5. His communication skills suck.

Unless there's a very good reason, if your man doesn't answer your text/email/phone call within 24 hours, he's playing a game.What about the men who deny the truth of that statement by claiming that some men are just too busy...? Dont fall for that crap!!. If you really like someone, you can find a minute to at least text them. No one is that busy! If your man does this on a regular basis, he's playing you.

6. He makes you feel like you're overreacting when you're not.

Let me give you an example: He promises to call you at 8pm, but doesn't contact you until the next day. Why? Because he decided that pizza with his mates would be more fun. When asked why he couldn't be bothered to let you know, to send you a text at least, he replies by making you feel like you're being clingy or too demanding. The guy is a tosser!

7. He makes you feel that You're Not Good Enough For Him

Seriously. This is a very important clue. Feeling that you're not good enough for him means that you feel bad about yourself. It's one thing if this issue stems from any self esteem issues you may have, but it is quite another if it is the result of the way he treats you.

This is sometimes the a sign of a cheater, but it's always the sign of someone you'd be better off without. Common techniques for making a woman feel bad involve criticizing her looks, calling her fat, suggesting she could loose a few kgs , or often insinuating that she is stupid. If he does any of these things, run, run away and be fast! Here is a caveat though, that I would put on this advice; sometimes women feel bad about themselves without any help from outside sources. Try to look at the situation objectively. Is he engaging in destructive interaction with you? Are your feelings based on negative self talk, or is he actively trying to keep you down by treating you like a lesser person than he? In the first instance, some counseling may be in order, in the second, a break up.

8. Gut Instinct

Have a funny feeling in your tummy when it comes to him? Take some Tums, and if it's still there once they've taken effect, chances are that your body is trying to tell you something. Most women who haver been involved with cheating men say afterwards that they had a feeling something was wrong. You shouldn't necessarily leave him because you have a feeling something isn't right, but you should be aware and be alert for other signs. Intuiton is what they call it and clay they that it makes abode in females!!!

Have a lovely evening all!!

James